by Friends of Godwin
Whenever we have a problem, it’s very interesting to try to find out what is the model, what is the expectation, what is the image I’m having which I am resisting now. Then you realize that what you call a problem is, in a way, not the problem; but rather the problem is the image, the idea, of how things should be different.
It’s also good to reflect very consciously: this is the problem I have; now in what way can I find a solution, in what way can I respond to that problem, what do I call a problem? Sometimes we have problems which cannot be solved. Take a practical example: sometimes in Sri Lanka a mother would come to me with a deformed child, or a mentally retarded child, and for such conditions there is no cure. So what can she do?
It is very important to know what can be changed, and what cannot be changed in our lives. If something can be changed, you can try to reflect about it clearly, and if things cannot be changed, you have to accept that. We have to have the wisdom to see the difference very clearly, what can be changed and what cannot be changed.